this one is for my sis.
+ take full responsible on the events. its yours. don't become a victim. learn as much as you can. knowledge is power. look for POSITIVE birth story on the net this can be inspiring.
+ find a positive image of the event, try to imagine it as often a you can. go into details, solve the problems that raise along the way. be specific as much as you can including your shirt color etc. relax your fears with self confidence affirmations till you feel free and comfortable in the vision.
birth is a very good lesson in overcoming fears, this will help you greatly later in your life.
+ pain comes in waves, be a surfer, get ready to the wave before it starts.
become a glass of water and let the pain fill you up without resisting it.
suffer comes from resisting the pain. loosen up. when you feel the wave reached its pick - imagine the form of the pain cloud you hold in your body. now start breathing on that cloud and make it disappear. that way you are always in contact of were you are in the pain line. stay aware at all time. when you are done, rest. when you are done resting start getting ready to the next wave.
hot water in the shower can ease your pain try it and see how it works for you [make sure in advance you have plenty of hot water]
+ if you lay down everything will happen slower. if you stand up this will speed things for you.
slower makes the pain easier to control. faster makes everything finish sooner. give yourself rest in between. this is about you not about going home early.
+ prepare some dried fruit or fresh fruit and water to fresh you up in the process if it becomes too long.
+ don't let anything distract your mind. if there are peoples or events that disturb you - eliminate them. don't give up an inch. this is your birth time and no one is entitled to interfere.
ask for help when you need anything, but stay private and connected to were you are at all times.
+ you might want to go to the toilet when the had drops lower, this is normal..
+ when the head tomb into your pelvis the pain becomes unbearable, here you have to open up. imagine a rose blooming, again and again. don't resist the pain .
try using low voices, this might help.
+now that the had is almost out, relax. find your position, talk to your baby, invite him to be born, relax him. DO NOT PUSH! be a river that flows by itself. the body knows when to push. stay as passive as you can and try to get the maximum effect of the body natural work. take your time - in the meantime ask for a bowl of hot water and pieces of towel that you prepared in advance. when you feel the had comes to the edge ask that those warm fabric will be placed on the exit. this will relax the burn and the skin so you wouldn't get cuts. to take the had out ask the person that assist you to put oil on the inside so that it will feel smoother.
+now that the baby is out, rest. breast feed the baby before you cut the cord, let him sleep on you. [no lights and its not urgent to know how much he weigh just now] let him eat , sleep and be calm. enjoy your success..
+ cut the Umbilical cord into an empty bawl. that way it will be very easy to take out the Placenta. it will fall of you when you stand up [because its empty!] if you dont empty it this can cause you unnecessary extra pain.
+take a good shower with someone checking on you, in the meantime let your helping people prepare the bad for you. go to sleep with your baby. you can clean him a little with a wet towel.
+ practice receiving help. let people do thing for you , don't do any housework. eat very healthy.
Arnica helps. in the first two three days you will loose your hormones. this can be a very hard experience. you can find yourself crying for days. there is no way around it just be prepared and know its part of the natural process.
+ it takes few days / weeks for the breast to understand how much milk to produce, its possible that you will suffer a feeling of too much milk. wash your Brest with hot water and squeeze it in the shower. this will be ok by itself. drink a glass of water everytime you breastfeed. you can dry very easily
+ you will feel your Uterus shrinking when breath feeding. this could heart some. but this is a good thing...
+ life is change. go easy with yourself. don't try to match a postcard of the perfect mom. there are no mistakes just free lessons. you can take them or ignore them. don't expect your partner to be were you are. but please let him help you and accept his support. you are no super hero. you need love help and support.
+ let the baby decide on when he wants to sleep and eat. don't try to control it. your baby will learn that he can count on you, this will save you allot of work later on.
+ bravo..
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